Have you ever wondered why when we are happy and satisfied, we have this flow of energy in ourselves that makes us feel like we are at the top of the world? This energy motivates us towards positivity.
What is this energy?
This is known as emotional energy. Emotions are a very strong part of our brain. Whenever we have a rush of emotions, a specific frequency generates in our brain, which regulates our mood and energy levels. The frequency of emotions can be bad or good, which decides what type of mood we are about to experience.
So, let’s learn more about what emotional energy is.
What is emotional energy?
The word emotion comes from the Latin, ‘energy in motion.’ Our emotions have a powerful impact on our minds. These emotions contain energy that regulates our mood. Emotional energy is feelings about our lives and different situations.
Do you feel a sudden increase in energy when you receive good news, get a raise, or meet your long-distance best friend?
This is known as emotional energy. Whenever we have a rush of specific emotions, we experience high-frequency vibrations in our minds. This increases the energy level in our minds. The feelings of love, passion, and enthusiasm are high-frequency vibrations.
Similarly, when you experience something tragic or something which causes you stress, it generates a lower frequency, and you may feel low in energy. Emotions like fear, grief, depression, and low self-esteem are some of the lower-frequency vibrations. In such situations, you don’t feel like doing anything and always feel tired.
Thus, emotional energy is a very vital part of our brain regulation. It controls our actions and thought processes. The release of this energy is essential. Therefore it is advised not to suppress your emotions because the negative energy will cause discomfort and hamper our day-to-day life.
The Importance Of Emotional Energy
Energy is one of the vital necessities in a person’s life. You need an energetic mind, soul, and heart to be productive, creative, and happy. High emotional energy is the feeling of being happy and high-spirited.
Why emotional energy is important?
Emotional energy relates to how we feel in our day-to-day life in different situations. It is essential to regulate your emotional energies because our mental well-being depends on it.
It regulates our mood. If it’s a low day, you might feel frustrated or sad. Thus your entire day’s productivity depends on your emotional energy. You can give in more effort when your emotional energy is high.
What drains your emotional energy?
Emotional energy can either be high or low. Low emotional energy can cause frustration and demotivation to do anything. Thus noticing what drains your emotional energy is essential to avoid emotional exhaustion.
The causes of emotional exhaustion can vary from person to person. Some might deal with it without stress, whereas others might find it stressful.
Someone going through pressure jobs, financial crises, family issues, marital life issues, or chronic illness may undergo emotional exhaustion.
Besides unavoidable situations, numerous other actions or conditions drain our emotional energy. These situations are best to be avoided. They take a lot from us and make us emotionally tired. These emotions disrupt our mental health and distract us.
1. Unnecessary Arguments
Whenever we get into pointless arguments, where the only motive is to defeat the other person, we lose a lot of energy. We express the bad versions of ourselves, and our entire mood is ruined.
Complaining is a normal action that everyone does. It is not bad; it is a way of expressing feelings. But we don’t go for a solution when this becomes a habit. Instead, keep on complaining about the situation.
Complaining develops negative thoughts and lowers self-esteem. It also increases stress and anxiety. Save your energy rather than complain about what’s wrong. If something is bothering you work towards a solution.
Invading other people’s privacy instead of focusing on our own is one of the scenarios that saps our emotional energy.
The worst aspect of this mentality is that it is frequently accompanied by unrelenting criticism of others. We pay attention to people and become concerned about their personal affairs, but we simply consider ways to undermine them. Nothing is a worse way to pass the time than gossip. One becomes less than they were before, and it drains their energy.
The habit of worrying inevitably results in uncertainty and inactivity. You must assess your options, and the only way to accomplish this is to consider the advantages and disadvantages of each choice.
However, issues arise when you keep going over all your possibilities and never make a choice.
5. Self Doubting
Constant uncertainty is one of the things that drain our emotional strength. When this happens, there’s always a “but” in every situation.” We arrive at the best solution or choice by just reflecting. We neglect that many solutions can only be found by fusing action with thought.
We strive relentlessly to get the approval of others and worry about things for so long that it distorts how we see life.
We simply spend our time doing things that other people want us to do rather than taking the time to consider who we are and whether others find us attractive or not.
How to manage emotional energy?
If your emotions are the source of your energy, then you can alter your emotions, which will change your energy. So here are some effective ways on how to manage emotional energy.
1. Saying ‘NO’
Saying no is acceptable. Be helpful but not at the cost of your mental well-being. Saying no doesn’t mean you need to be selfish; say no when you are uncomfortable or you know you are forced to do anything. It is essential to keep yourself healthy and safe before being able to help others.
If you blindly trust people and help them, they might use you. In such a case, your energy and time will both be wasted. So a ‘no’ once in a while is okay.
When we spend time with the people we love or who support us mentally and emotionally, we experience high energy levels. Limit your friendships and relationships with people hampering your mental well-being and day-to-day life.
Don’t waste your energy with them; give your energy and time to friends and family members who make you feel loved.
3. Doing things you love
When you feel drained or overwhelmed, try doing things that you love. Take some time for the things you love, and you’ll be more relaxed and satisfied. After that, you can resume your day.
Meditation is a great way to regulate your emotions. Properly guided meditation can help you understand your feelings and give you a clear mind for channeling them. Meditation helps in decluttering all the negative thoughts which attract negative emotions.
Being present in your body or physical environment could feel challenging while your emotions run high. To stay grounded, try to focus on using your five senses.
This can involve various grounding techniques, such as spraying ice water on your face, singing or humming, or employing progressive muscle relaxation.
You can try the exercise called the 5-4-3-2-1 technique:
- 5 Things you can see
- 4 Things you can touch
- 3 Things you can hear
- 2 Things you can smell
- 1 Thing you can taste
Emotional energy is an essential aspect of our lives. How we feel about ourselves and our lives is entirely regulated by our emotional energy levels. Therefore it’s important to learn how to manage emotional energy. If we constantly think of negative thoughts, our emotional energy will decrease. In such situations, we might not find ourselves happy with our life.
The key is understanding where to indulge so our emotional energy doesn’t drain out. Choose the right situation and set of people to spend your emotional energy on. Keep negative thoughts out of your mind and engage in activities that make you happy.
Emotional regulation is a vital life skill a person should know. Accurately regulating your emotions will help you have better mental health and relationships. To learn more about emotional regulation, click here.
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